This post is Part Five of a true story. A story about Adam and I getting pregnant before marriage and how it has made our life together complicated, painful, wonderful and FULL of surprises. A story of how love can grow in even the most unlikely situations. If you haven’t already, you can read Part One here, Part Two here ,Part Three here, and Part Four here.

So there we were…Engaged and Underage.  Well not both of us, I was 20 and Adam was 21.  We were the parents of a toddler and we were about to get married.

And let me just say….I needed some bangs yo!  My forehead is just not meant to be bared!  Especially with what was going on with my eyebrows.

So we were showered with all of the things that we would need to set up a household.  It was so exciting to pick out a china pattern and flatware.  Here are my actual choices.  I still love the patterns 6 years later.  I hope I still love them for 24 more because from my observations people tend to hold onto these things for like 30 years.

Just a little tidbit…before my engagement I didn’t even know what flatware was.  Silverware is silverware is silverware.  Utensils.  Forks and spoons.  Knives even.  But Betty at the Macy’s Bridal department opened my eyes to a whole new world of tableware and kitchen appliances.

I think I was more excited about playing house than I was about the actual wedding.  I know how crazy that must sound but I was an unwed mother and I felt the need to be legitimized.  Of course I loved Adam and I wanted to marry him, but I don’t think I really knew what it meant to be a wife.  I can’t speak for Adam but I think, although he loved me too, he may have felt a little obligated to marry me.  So at the time of our wedding I think we both were just young and ill equipped to fully grasp what we were about to embark upon.

Our wedding was a happy day and we went to Destin on our Honeymoon and Addison went to stay with Adam’s parent’s while we were gone.  It was so hard to say goodbye to our baby, but it was the first time that Adam and I had ever been able to get away by ourselves.

And we had so much fun!  Our honeymoon was WAY too short and 2 days after we came back Adam started a new job ( in addition to playing gigs and delivering pizza at night) and I went back to college.

We jumped right back into real life and everything that comes with it.  We moved out of my parents house and we rented my Aunt Missy’s house while she was living in Texas.

And life was not easy.  Adam worked VERY hard so that I could stay home with Addie on the days I didn’t have classes.  I was a full time student and I was trying to figure out how to be a wife , mother and homemaker.  It was way harder than I thought it would be. Honestly, I wasn’t very good at balancing my responsibilities AT ALL.

I am sitting here trying to think of something funny, but our first year of marriage was less honeymoon and more hard work.  I would be lying if I said it was anything other than that.  I temporarily forgot that God was in control and that all I needed to do was seek Him and I would find peace in that.

I was totally focused on Addison and my schoolwork and so many other things were neglected.  One of those things was the housework.  Laundry was always piled up and the house was usually a cluttered mess.  I wasn’t a very good cook and one night I screwed up beef stroganoff so bad….well let’s just say that my cinnamon and my black pepper were in identical jars and no amount of rinsing or ketchup could help the situation.

One other minor detail I tended to push by the wayside was….my husband.  I was exhausted, anxious and overwhelmed and ,to be completely candid, I wasn’t a very good christian wife at all.  I think I might  stop there for now.   I will tell you all about the stupid mistakes I made and how much I SUCKED at being a wife in Part 6.  Yay!  I know you are all on pins and needles.

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