This post is Part One of a true story. A story about Adam and I getting pregnant before marriage and how it has made our life together complicated, painful, wonderful and FULL of surprises. A story of how love can grow in even the most unlikely situations.

Adam and I should have known better.   We actually did know better and we chose to do it anyway. And guess what happens when you are young and careless and you care more about having fun than anything else? You get pregnant! What a shocker huh?

So I was 19 years old and I had just quit college because you know it was really putting a damper on my social life.

I was working in a clothing store and I had SUCH a bright future in that promising career path. Adam was in college and he actually had enough drive and personal ambition for the both of us.

Have I mentioned that he is a very talented musician? It is one of the reasons I fell in love with him. He plays bass, both electric and upright. He can play anything, but he loves Jazz and when we started dating I suddenly realized that there was more to the music world than just Incubus, Eminem, and Madonna.

That’s a little bit of an exaggeration…I wasn’t totally musically ignorant.

Nope…I liked Green Day too.

Kidding…Kidding! I really had pretty diverse musical taste, it had just never included Jazz.

I still don’t like ALL of the Jazz that Adam likes, but I do know enough about it to know that Kenny G is not real Jazz. Just ask Adam, he has quite an opinion on that. I actually do enjoy most of what he plays and listens to. I guess in my own long winded way I am saying that Adam broadened my horizons in terms of music. Whew…can you imagine being married to me? I talk A LOT!

Ok, so he was in college getting his degree in Jazz studies and I was Sales Associate Extraordinaire. I had no direction, I spent more money on cigarettes and alcohol than I did on food, and I lived in a fantasy world.  Can you imagine how my parents felt the day I told them that they were going to be grandparents? I mean my mom was 39 years old…and my dad 40!

Well, I never expected the way I would feel after that test turned out to be positive. The very minute I found out that life was growing inside me I was in love with the idea of being a mother.

Sure I was freaking out. I mean up until that point I was living in a basement apartment in a party house full of my friends. We were THE coolest people on earth in our opinions.

But you know what?

I suddenly had a purpose. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I had to grow up in an instant. I had to stop being so very very selfish.

Adam had a bit of a harder time grasping reality I think. I mean we were just kids you know? We decided not to get married right away. We didn’t want to jump into marriage just because we were going to be parents. The good news was that we both had a very strong support system, and even better….we liked each other a lot.

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